Thomas B. OBrien
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Winterport - Thomas F. O'Brien, 70, passed away at his home, once owned by his cherished Uncle Tom, on Saturday, February 8, 2020. He was born February 26, 1949 in Bangor, the son of Ralph and Gail (McDermott) OBrien.
In Tom's younger years he worked at Harcourt Newspaper offices in Malden, MA, where he developed his strong work ethic. Tom graduated with an Associate's degree from Wentworth Institute in Boston, MA. He also graduated with a Bachelor's degree in Aeronautical Engineering from Kent State, Ohio.
He held various positions of increasing responsibility in the Computer and Logistics Division for New England Life/MetLife of Boston; eventually becoming the 2nd Vice President for IT Technology. Tom then accepted
a position as Senior Vice President for IT Strategy and Platform Management at Capital Holding Company/Providian Life, from which he retired. He then acted as a private consultant until fully retiring in Winterport, Maine.
Tom enjoyed making people laugh. Nothing made him happier than spending time with his family and friends. He liked spending time in his RV visiting the ocean with his wife and dog, Eddie.
In addition to his parents, he was predeceased by his uncle, Tom McDermott; and his dogs, Big Nick and Chuckie.
Tom is survived by his wife, Diana; his beloved dog, Eddie; son, David OBrien; daughter, Gail OBrien; sister, Cornelia "Connie" MacQuarie and her husband,
James; brother, Ralph OBrien; step children, David Sands, Christine Turgeon, Crystal Paradis, and Jeremy Guerrette and six step grandchildren.
A memorial service will be held 1 PM Saturday, February 22, 2020 at the Bangor Advent Christian Church, 2141 Broadway, Bangor, Maine 04401. Condolences to the family may be expressed at
Published on February 10, 2020


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Cynthia Deveau, RN, CCOM
Feb 20, 2020
I am so sorry to hear of his passing. I will miss seeing Tom at CCOM and his sense of humor.
Kevin Porter
Feb 14, 2020
Ralph & Cornelia " Connie " , I'm very sorry for your loss , Also Tom's Wife Diana , Tom was a my cousin , We didn't see each other to often , I believe family should stay in touch with each other , You never know , When a family member is going to pass . . . . Connie & Ralph , You can contact me in Facebook . . . . RIP Cousin Tom
Jeff Doyle
Feb 12, 2020
I first met Tom when we were paper boys together at Harcourt News in Malden in the early ‘60s. When we were not on our paper routes Tom and I would hang out at his house before his mother got home to see what kind of lighthearted mischief we could get into. I will never forget the infamous spaghetti jar toss in the kitchen which did not turn out so well! Fast forward several years and Tom moved to KY. Although far away he flew back to attend the wedding of my oldest daughter. Tom is one of the nicest guys and friend I have had the pleasure of knowing. No matter what the situation he could find a way to make us laugh at life and each other. He will be sorely missed by me and my famil...y and everyone who had the pleasure of meeting him. Thank you for being my friend. Rest in peace. Thank you Tom for all the memories.Read more
Daniel Levesque
Feb 11, 2020
To my best friend my brother i surely will miss you. Im so glad i got to be with you in ur final hours.Spending time with you is all that meant to me.Glad that my daughter celeste got to sing you happy birthday. We surely had some good laughs in our years to gather < 2001 -2020 < Not one day when we were to gather was boring lol. We were like peas in a pod. Ill never forget you tommy boy.Your life was cut to short .And god had a plan for you.Ill always think of you tommyI love you brother. RIP
Joel Gross
Feb 11, 2020
What can I say? Tom and I were great friends from the day we met, 48-years ago until the day he died. He loved life, his family, his friends and his Golden Retrievers. Quick with a laugh; an indomitable spirit; and not an ounce of self-pity. He had a unique quality of looking at his life in the 3rd-person. No matter how grim, crazy or out of control things became at times, he always soldiered through with his signature catch-phrase, "this is going to make a great story someday". He cherished good food and drink; his native Maine, and his beloved wife, Diana. You were right, Tom. It has been a great story. Thank you for letting me share the journey with you. Always...
Dan Casey
Feb 10, 2020
So sad, I am going to miss him, however, I will never forget him.