Roger A. Stanley
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LaGrange - Roger A. Stanley passed peacefully February 13, 2020, surrounded by his wife of 50 years and his children. Roger was born in Milo on October 14, 1948, the son of Willis and Vivienne (Decker) Stanley.
Roger graduated from Old Town High School in 1967. He served in Vietnam with the 196th Infantry Brigade. Roger spent his career with the State of Maine, working with both the Departments of Transportation and Conservation. He was extremely proud of his 40 years with the LaGrange Fire Department, where he served as fire chief for most of those years.
Roger married Marlene Strout on August 22, 1970, in LaGrange. They had three children, Brian Stanley and his partner, Lee Desiderio, of Portland, Michelle Pennington of LaGrange, and
Kenneth Stanley and his wife, Rachelle, of Standish. They have five grandchildren, Kenneth Pennington of LaGrange, Haley Pennington and her boyfriend, Micheal Krug, of Milo, Roslin Desiderio of Oakland, and Benjamin and Ethan Stanley of Standish.
Roger is also survived by two brothers, Willis Stanley and his wife, Sharon, of North Carolina and Robert Stanley of Glenburn; and a brother-in-law, George Strout and his wife, Carleen, of Medway. He was especially close to three cousins, Marie Drinkwater and her husband, Arthur, Timothy Boobar, and his wife, Debra, all of Medford, and Mark Boobar and his girlfriend, Diane, of LaGrange. Roger considered Corey Roberts to be an honorary son. Roger was also survived by beloved family members, as well as numerous friends, and his beloved dog, Lacey.
Roger was predeceased by his mother, father, and two brothers, Delwin Stanley and Harvey Stanley. He was also predeceased by his mother and father-in-law, George and Ava (Waterhouse) Strout.
Friends are invited to call from 1:00 pm until time of a memorial service at 2:00 pm Thursday, February 20, 2020, at the Lary Funeral Home, 31 Elm Street, Milo. A reception at the Stanley residence will follow the service. A graveside service will be held in the spring. Condolences and memories may be expressed at
Published on February 14, 2020


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Brenda Roberts
Feb 15, 2020
My heart goes out the Marlene and her children. Ed and I had been friends with Marlene and Roger for 50 years and spent ALOT of time at each others homes when we lived in LaGrange. Roger was a good man and he will be missed. Praying that God will bring you comfort!
Maravene Osgood
Feb 15, 2020
I did not know Roger as well as his older brothers....cousins of mine. I do know the Stanley family history and what wonderful people they were.....are. La
Grange will not be the same without you. Rest in Peace, Roger. RIP.
Tracy and Charles gray
Feb 15, 2020
We are so sorry for your loss. He was a character. I loved his spunk with his grandson Casey. My heart hurts for you my friend Marlene you guys was a perfect fit. Hugs
H.I. and Joyce Whiting
Feb 15, 2020
May the memories you have shared through the years bring you comfort. Roger was loved by many and will be missed. Rest in peace, dear cousin.
Cynthia Brackett
Feb 14, 2020
So sorry for your loss. Marlene and family thinking of all of you
Feb 14, 2020
I extend to you my sincere condolences. I never knew Roger, but the fact that he served in Vietnam has won him my most profound respect, and the love that he had for his dog causes me to view him as a friend. Please give a hug to Lacey for me.
Claudette Russell( Cousin)
Feb 14, 2020
We have had some great laughs through the years. They are a Beautiful Family. My Heart N, Prayers are with them at this time. Sorry Marlene.
Angel, Eric, and Dylan
Feb 14, 2020
Marlene and Family,
I'm so sorry for all of you!!! Thank you for all the wonderful memories growing up!!! Roger will surely be missed by many!!! We love you!!!
Claudette Russell coffin( cousin)
Feb 14, 2020
We have had some great times together. So sorry for your loss to this beautiful Family. My Heart n, Prayers are with you and your Family. Love you all dearly.
Donna Jackson Dailey
Feb 14, 2020
I am so very sad to hear of Roger's passing. I guess you would say that I'm a distant cousin. My Mom (Mary Decker Jackson) is his cousin. I only met Roger 3 or 4 times at Family Reunions, but he ALWAYS made feel welcome and like part of the family!! He will truly be missed! I'm sending my thoughts and prayers to all of his family.
Joe and Janie Brackett.
Feb 14, 2020
So very sorry for your loss. Our thoughts, prayers, and our condolences to all the family.