Carl A. Willoughby

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Carl A. Willoughby

February 17, 2019

Bangor - Carl A. Willoughby, 69, went to be with his Lord and Savior on February 17, 2019. Carl grew up in Brewer, the son of Ralph and Barbara Willoughby.
He enjoyed growing up in the house on Whiting Hill and often spoke fondly of those days. He graduated from Brewer High School in 1967 where he began his lifelong passion of playing the drums. He attended the University of Maine, continuing to play in numerous bands which he did throughout his lifetime. He met the love of his life, Rhonda, when he played in the band Harvest in 1974. For the last several years Carl's passion was playing drums with the Calvary Baptist Church Praise Team. Carl started selling cars in 1975. He advanced in that career until entering the financial mortgage business. The final phase of his career was at Gateway Title, where he opened numerous new business relationships and was named GBAR affiliate of the year in 2017.
Carl was predeceased by his parents; brother-in-law, Danny Hilyard; mother-in-law, Marilyn Hilyard; nephew, Danny Hilyard; and lifelong friends, Tony and Barbara Baude (Dow).
Carl is survived by his wife of 43 years, Rhonda; daughter, Shauna Brown and Jeff Brown of Bangor; 3 grandsons, Quincy, Henry and Levi; brothers, Donald Willoughby of Portsmouth, NH and family; and Paul and wife, Elaine Willoughby of Winthrop, and family; brother-in-law, Peter Hilyard (whom he shared a close bond with) and his wife, Lynn and their sons, Cody and Peter; a special niece, Danielle and husband, Brett Stuber and their sons, Jack and Luke; and friends too numerous to mention. Carl and Rhonda share an extraordinary extended family tie with the Baudes and Sturdees.
If you had the privilege of knowing Carl, you were truly blessed. His upbeat personality, passion for helping others and never saying a negative thing about anyone or anything was inspirational. His bright light never dimmed even when he was faced with such difficult challenges.
Relatives and friends are invited to call from 6-8 p.m. Thursday, February 21, 2019 at Brookings-Smith, 133 Center Street, Bangor. A funeral service will be held 11:00 a.m. Friday, February 22, 2019 at the Calvary Baptist Church, 61 State Street, Brewer with Pastor Daniel Russell, officiating. The family invites relatives and friends to share conversation and refreshments at the Family Reception Center of Brookings-Smith, 163 Center Street, Bangor immediately following the service Friday. Those who wish to remember Carl in a special way may make gifts in his memory to Calvary Baptist Church's Benevolence Fund, 61 State Street, Brewer, ME 04412. Condolences to the family may be expressed at
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Mar 10, 2019
I’m very sorry for the loss of your love one. Times like these are very hard to deal with. May you receive strength and encouragement from the the God who promise that soon we’ll be able to see our love ones again. They will “hear his voice and come out” from their memorial tombs.- John 5:28,29.
Jim and Janice Clark
Feb 27, 2019
We are so sorry to hear of Carl’s passing. He was very special to Jim when they worked together and later when Carl wisely left the car business. Our hearts break for your loss.
Carol Dumond Card
Feb 22, 2019
Carl was a wonderful man who was loved and respected by all and adored by the many kids who hung out at your home. I hope those memories help to heal your broken heart.
Gail Baxter Creath
Feb 22, 2019
I am so very sorry to hear of Carl's passing. He knew my husband from his car dealership days and then our relationship continued on at Gateway. Carl was a very hard working man and always smiling and pleasant. May God comfort his family during this most difficult time. Thoughts and prayers are with you all. You have my most sincere sympathy.
Jim Mullen
Feb 22, 2019
Carl and I were classmates from junior high through high school, and worked together on a number of reunions. He was a great guy, always upbeat and a pleasure to be around. He will be missed. Rest in peace old friend.
Brian & Kathy Hamel
Feb 21, 2019
We are so sorry for your loss, Carl was a very kind and sweet person. We have known Carl since High school. We last talked to him at the closing of my Mom’s house, the last week at Gateway before he retired.. He was so positive and upbeat❤️ Our Sympathy Brian & Kathy
Dawn Simpson Good
Feb 21, 2019
Dear Rhonda, Don and family,
Thinking of you at this difficult time. Sending prayers.
He is not gone, just gone on ahead. Until you meet again.
Mike and Jacquie Haney
Feb 21, 2019
We were so sad to hear of Carl's passing. What a nice ,kind and funny man. Always a story to tell. You , Shawna and your beautiful grandsons hold on tight to each other. In our thoughts.
Greg Miller
Feb 21, 2019
Great guy I enjoyed talking with him very much on his trips to the county. May god bless! He will be missed
Margaret Guthrie
Feb 21, 2019
Our 50th BHS reunion was a very special evening to share our thoughts and loviing memories with Carl. His joy and smiles lifted our spirits ❤🌷
Dave and Linda Dickson
Feb 21, 2019
Rhonda, Shauna;
So sorry to hear of Carl's' passing. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Rest in Peace, Carl.
Robin Fulcher
Feb 20, 2019
Don - I'm so sorry for your loss. Having known Carl since my teens, I was truly blessed to work professionally with him in the recent past and got to know what an incredible person and man of God he was. He was the real deal in every way! We shared many conversations about The Lord and we agreed that we are but sojourners in this life and heaven is our real home. You are blessed as well in knowing that one day you will see Carl again and you will truly be brothers for all of eternity!
Bob Reymer
Feb 20, 2019
To Paul and Donald, I am truly sorry to read of Carl's passing. Although I haven't seen Carl for many years , I remember the days when we roamed every field and climbed every tree on Whiting Hill. From the many tributes, it sounds like Carls body gave up but his spirit lives on.
Feb 20, 2019
Reading the obituary of, and tributes to, a man that I never had the pleasure of meeting, proved to be both a blessing, and a challenge as well. The Bible says that a good name is to be chosen, rather than riches. It is obvious that Carl had a good name, and that his was a life well lived. Based upon the tributes that are extended following his obit, isn't it true to form that the gifts and qualities that he exhibited during his earthly life, would still serve to be of blessing and encouragement, and challenge to others posthumously ? My hat is off to the memory of this man, and my deepest condolences are extended to you at this time. You will meet again, because Christ is risen from the dea...d.Read more
John and Susan Ryder
Feb 20, 2019
Rhonda, Shauna and family -

Carl was an uncommonly kind and gracious man who touched so many in a positive way.

We will continue to pray for God's comfort as you grieve, knowing he is in a better place until that day when you rejoin him there.
Shirley Page Haney Craig
Feb 20, 2019
Rhonda I am so sorry for your loss & the loss of Paul Wlloughby & your extended families. He was a special gentleman. My prayers & thoughts are with you. I would have been honored to attend his wake & funeral but am out of town until Saturday. Love to you all.
Harold & Sally Day
Feb 20, 2019
Our heartfelt sympathy to Rhonda and Family. We will always cherish our memories. of Carl.
Bob Murphy
Feb 20, 2019
Dear Rhonda and family, our thoughts and prayers are with you all as you morn the loss of your dear husband, father, grandfather and friend to many. Brenda and Bob Murphy
Mark Russell
Feb 20, 2019
Carl was such a great person. Always a smile and good things to say about all. Condolences to his family, friends, and co-workers. Rest in the Peace of Our Lord's arms, Carl.
Jim & Terri Prescott
Feb 20, 2019
Rhonda & family,

We are so sad to hear of Carl’s passing. He was a wonderful man & a great friend who will never be forgotten. Our love to you and your family.
John Kirk
Feb 20, 2019
Rhonda, Shauna, Jeff, Quincy, Henry and Levi- I cannot tell you how sad I was to hear of Carl's passing. I consider a privilege to have known him, worked with him and to have called him a friend. You do not have to look very far to see the positive impact that Carl made on other people's lives. I will miss him greatly.
Dean Churchill
Feb 20, 2019
Rhonda, Peter and families - I am extremely sorry to learn of Carl’s passing. Please know that I wish you all the comfort possible in this period following your loss. Time and togetherness will never dim Carl’s memory, but they will hopefully help you heal.
Clarence Neal
Feb 20, 2019
Solid fellow to do business with.
Nice man.
Glenn & Bernadette Gaspar
Feb 20, 2019
So sorry to hear of your loss. He was a beautiful soul. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. The Gaspars
Elaine, Richard, Kathryn & all The CT Baudes
Feb 20, 2019
Rhonda, Shauna & Family,
We are so sorry and our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Carl was such a special man who graced all our lives with laughter and kindness. While here on earth everyone is sad, there are those in Heaven who are celebrating big time!! Especially, Tony! The Boys are back together and Heaven help Barb to deal with it!
Love to you all.