Ashley Rhiannon Coffman

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Ashley Rhiannon Coffman

January 05, 2019

Indian Island - Our beloved Ashley Rhiannon Coffman of Penobscot Nation, Maine, passed away on January 5, 2019, after a long battle with addiction. She was a beautiful and vibrant soul who made friends anywhere she went and brought light and laughter into so many lives.
Ashley was a star student at John Bapst Memorial High School, graduating in 1998. She then attended the University of Maine Orono.
From an early age, Ashley had a passion and understanding for children which led her to study Early Childhood Development. She was ecstatic to have two of her own, Chloe (9) and Cameron (4). She loved them infinitely and worked hard to give them everything they wanted. She had a passion for nature and animals and could often be found hiking, swimming, and skiing with her family and rescue dogs.
Ashley was predeceased by her mother, Tina Theriault; paternal grandparents, Kenneth and Gertrude Romine; and maternal grandparents, Marlin and Mary Rhine.
She was survived by her children, Chloe and Cameron Calcasola; father, Ralph Coffman of Old Town, Maine; sister Courtney Coffman and brother-in-law, Eban Delano of North Conway, NH; sister, Kalie Shorr of Nashville, TN; nephews, Jackson and Mason Delano and niece, Paisley Delano of North Conway, NH; and father to her children, Carlo Calcasola. She also had many cousins, aunts and uncles, and numerous friends whom she loved dearly.
If you or someone you know is battling addiction, please know you are not alone and you can overcome it. There are resources and love at the end of a telephone line. You can reach the National Drug Helpline at: 1-888-633-3239 or
If you have read Ashley's story and found judgement in your heart, please do your best to understand that addiction is a disease, not a choice. Nearly every person has been affected by it directly or indirectly, and compassion and support is crucial in the recovery process.
We know that Ashley is now watching over us, free of her demons. We will never understand why her struggle ended this way, but will spend the rest of our lives trying to help and educate people to prevent other families from having to experience the grief we feel right now.
Friends and family will gather to celebrate her life Friday, January 11, from 5 p.m. - 8 p.m. at Birmingham Funeral Home, 438 Main Street, Old Town, ME, where a celebration of life will be held 10 a.m. Saturday, with a reception immediately following at the Penobscot Nation Bingo Hall, 7 River Street, Old Town, ME.
In lieu of flowers, please consider donating to a fund we have created solely for Ashley's children, Chloe and Cameron, who she was raising on her own.
Published on January 8, 2019
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13 posts

Jan 28, 2019
What a brave and beautiful obituary. Addiction is nothing to be ashamed of and I applaud your decision to be honest about your beautiful Ashley. May she rest in peace, beyond the tormented grip of addiction. May your family and her children find peace and healing. God bless.
Lori Thompson
Jan 25, 2019
What a touching obituary. I did not know her personally, but saw her often. I too, have suffered with this terrible disease for over 20 years. She was so lucky to have raised her children as so many of us lose that option. It is so nice to hear that someone out there realizes it is a disease not a choice. May you find comfort in knowing that she is not alone. Thank you for sharing such a tragedy.
Jan 25, 2019
What a beautiful obituary. So well written, So sorry you have lost a loved one to this awful disease. My prayers and thoughts are with you,
Jan 22, 2019
To the family and friends of Ashley,

I send condolences to all of you. I didn’t know Ashley but I am familiar with how it feels to watch a loved one struggle with addiction. Judgement is the last thing anyone needs as they navigate the emotional twists and turns.

Your obituary for Ashley serves as a good reminder for all of us to try and be sympathetic, or at least take a little bit of time to understand how hard it is for all of us going through similar things.

Your honesty is appreciated. It’s the only way to heal.

Rest In Peace, Ashley.
Deb Fiske
Jan 19, 2019
I didn't know Ashley but her obituary was clearly written by someone who understands the power of addiction. Addiction is a horrible disease and takes so many of our loved ones way before their time. Be kind to each other during this time of sadness and let treasured memories warm your soul.
Douglas Saunders
Jan 12, 2019
I will miss my eel fishing buddy. Thinking of the family at this time. My deepest condolences.
Jan 11, 2019
Ashley was kind and friendly always easy to talk to. My last memory of her was at her job last summer in Bangor, she looked great and her beautiful smile showed she was doing well.
She told us that she was happy and sober, that's how I'll remember her because she was trying and at that point she was winning. She loved her children beyond measure and the sadness of her passing will always be in our hearts. Prayers to her family with sincere sympathy in your loss ♡
Lara Pardy
Jan 10, 2019
I met Ashley about 16 years ago, at my first waitressing job. She was one of the funniest people I’ve ever met and I hope I’ll never forget her laugh. I ran into her at the store a few years ago and we spent some time catching up- her love for her children was so clear.

There are no words that can help ease the pain of your loss. Addiction is a monster that steals away the people that we love. My deepest condolences to her family, especially her beautiful children. May she finally be at peace. ♥️
Michelle Wooster
Jan 10, 2019
Rest in peace hun. What short time I knew you there was a connection and I know what a big heart you had and the love for your children shone through your bubbly spirit and it breaks my heart to think I the evil aloof of us have fallen into took such a caring soul. I guess God needed to bring another angel home for reasons he only knows. My heart goes out to your family . I spoke l.j evwith your Dad a couple times on the phone for you and I feel l.j t th ed love me had for you in just those 2 brief conversations. I saw where yo hi got your kindness as he seemed to make me feel im wasnt talking with a m as n I never met. Again rest in peace my friend.
Jan 09, 2019
My deepest, most sincere condolences, my heart, and my tears, I offer to you at this time, surrounding the loss of a beautiful young woman. Again, my heart goes out to you in deepest sincerity.
Esther Anne
Jan 08, 2019
Ralph, keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. It is so gracious of you to share such a beautiful message, may we receive the love and compassion we all deserve.
Joseph Mitchell
Jan 08, 2019
So sad. I didnt know her but What a beautiful woman. So many people are affected by this. Fly high beautiful
Jan 08, 2019