BANGOR AND HAMPDEN - Mary Mitchell Graffam, 87, wife of Robert L. Graffam went to heaven on January 12, 2016. She was born January 1, 1929, in Bangor, the daughter of James E. and Elizabeth (Palmer) Mitchell.
Mary graduated from Bangor High School in 1947. She ran a nursery school in her home and was a secretary for SAD # 22 in Hampden. She was a devoted wife, mother and grandmother and enjoyed cooking and summers at the Lucerne Beach Club. What was most important to her was her faith, family and friends. She married Robert, the love of her life, on March 26, 1949, and they were married for 64 years. Mary was known for her sense of humor which brought joy to many people.
Mary is survived by one son, Robert Graffam and his wife Phyllis of Vero Beach, FL; two daughters, Deborah Mallar and her husband Jim of Holden and Mary Bureau of Bangor; eight grandchildren, Matthew and his wife Andrea, Brian and his wife Robin, Robert and Christine Graffam, James Mallar and his wife Matie, Lindsay (Mallar) Lesch and her husband Douglas, Nicole (Bureau) Carruthers and her husband Joshua and Jessica Bureau; six great-grandchildren, Christian, Brianna, Madison, Skylar, Maddox and Sadie; two sisters Ann Wood and Elizabeth (Betsy) Savage and her husband Richard (Shad) and one brother, James Mitchell and his wife JoAnn. Mary was predeceased by her husband, Robert, her sister Sally Ricker, her sister-in-law and brother-in-law Norma and Donald Graffam and her son-in-law Brian Bureau. Mary and Bob opened their home to a special nephew, Michael Ricker, who was like a second son to them.
The family thanks the staff at The Maine Veteran's Home for their loving, compassionate care for Mary.
A memorial service will be held at 11AM, Saturday, January 30, at Calvary Chapel, in Orrington, ME with refreshments to follow. Pastor Ken Graves of Calvary Chapel will be officiating. In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to the Calvary Residential Discipleship (CRD) Programs, 154 River Road, Orrington, ME 04474; or The Maine Veteran's Home, 44 Hogan RD, Bangor, ME 04401. Interment will be in the spring at Mt. Hope Cemetery. Messages of condolence and memories may be shared through the online guestbook at