Sean Thomas McPherson

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Sean Thomas McPherson

April 23, 1977 - November 10, 2018

Bangor Sean Thomas McPherson had nine lives and used up 12. His obituary is tardy because his family really was hoping he might be able to squeeze out a "Hail Mary" and come up with a thirteenth life. Unfortunately, November 10, 2018, was his last day.
Sean was born on April 23, 1977, in Bangor, Maine, to Sue Thomas and James McPherson. He was the beloved baby of the family. He brought so much heart, love, and joy to his family.
Sean was so clever and a little bit wild. He was brave and fearless and always ready for the next adventure. Sean had such a big heart. He was loyal. He had such a fun sense of humor and brought such levity to many situations. He was just a good ol' boy. He was as strong as Bo, cool as Luke, and wise like Uncle Jesse. May he forever jump in a car the Dukes of Hazzard way.
Sean was a very active child. He loved running wild on Maple Street and at Beech Hill Pond. He was always so happy to be out of the house and hanging out with his neighbors. When he got in trouble which was more often than not he was known to escape punishment with his twinkling blueberry eyes and terrific smile. Sean's first love was spending summers at Camp at Beech Hill Pond. Swimming, boat riding, and making forts in the woods brought him so much joy, as did watching Bob Ross on rainy days (exclaiming, "Why did he put that tree there?!"). Sean loved his nana's chop suey and mashed potatoes. He loved to celebrate family get togethers with delicious Pat's Pizza or Coffee Pots. He loved to cook and talk recipes with his sister, Kate. Their chicken curry recipe is now a family heirloom.
Sean was a bartender by trade. He enjoyed working in Florida, Missouri, and Maine especially Bar Harbor. He had the perfect charming personality for this occupation. He loathed the blender drinks, but was pretty good at making them. He was known to juggle bottles, blow fire, and have such a good time at work.
Sean is survived by a large family. He is sorely missed by his mother. They traveled quite a bit together and spent lots of time together just being. He also is missed by his remarkable 102-year-old grandfather, Philip Thomas, whom Sean spent the last few years taking care of. He was predeceased by his loving nana, Dorothy Thomas. Also missing Sean are his father; his sister, Michelle Lacy; her four children, Fletcher, Seth, Grace, and Faith; and a great nephew, Ocean. Sean and his sister, Kathryn Perrin, who is devastated by the loss, were extremely close. They shared a made-up language, a childhood bedroom, inside jokes, and numerous memories. Sean's brother-in-law, Christopher Perrin and Chris and Kate's three children, Henry, Charlotte, and Zoë, are tremendously missing him, too. All of Sean's nieces and nephews miss their best and favorite uncle. He was always willing to play, save water toys at camp, and go for a swim. He would always have money, a toy, or a treat to share with the kids. Sean also had seven wonderful uncles. He especially had a warm relationship with his uncles, Owen and John (Thomas) and Ralph and Henry (McPherson). Sean was loved by his cousins, Jennifer, Matt, Aaron, and Megan and will be fondly remembered for his phrase "dint hurt." He was the youngest grandchild and deeply cherished.
Sean had numerous friends from all his walks of life. He thought of most of them as his family. Sean was always willing to help a friend in need. Once a friend of Sean's, always a friend. He was the life of the party. He loved watching and talking about the Red Sox and Patriots and was known to know amazing facts about his favorite teams.
The absence of Sean's generous heart, beautiful soul, kindness, sense of humor, and wicked awesome laugh are felt deeply. His family and friends are heartbroken by his untimely death and still wish he had a thirteen life. He wasn't perfect, but he was ours. Sean will be loved and missed forever.
Published on December 1, 2018
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Bonnie Webb
Dec 06, 2018
Sue and family want you to know I am sending prayers and only wish
I had had the pleasure of knowing
Sean. Thoughts WTH you all
And may God Bless him. Would call but am sure you are overwhelmed . Wish i could give you a hug Sue, Love Bonnie
Aaron Thomas
Dec 05, 2018
I can't believe Sean is gone. Just doesn't seem possible! He was a great person and cousin - seemed like a brother. He will always be remembered, especially all of the good times at camp. Love you bud!
Nichole Trainor
Dec 03, 2018
Sue & Family, I am so very sorry for the loss of Sean. May your time together and memories shared bring you to a place of peace. Peace in knowing you created a beautiful life, a friend to many, and a love that is everlasting. My heart is with you during this difficult time. Much love.
Shaun Paul
Dec 03, 2018
I never knew your son, but I'm deeply touched by this obituary. I'm so very sorry for the loss of what sounds like such an amazingly rare young man. It sounds like he lived a lifetime-and-a-half in a short period of time. May you find peace that he is living his thirteenth life now.
Candy Wentwoth Thorne
Dec 01, 2018
Sue. I am so sorry for your loss of your son. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I lost my youngest daughter on 09/26/2018. Take care.
Pam McPherson Kelley
Dec 01, 2018
My heart goes out to you. So very sorry for your loss.
Eileen OBrien (nee Flaherty)
Dec 01, 2018
Happy memories of spending time in Ellsworth with Peg and Ralph McPherson. Sean resembles Ralph. I loved riding with him in his Drake's bakery truck and Peg was as sweet as her mother, my Aunt Delia of 121 Union St. Brewer. Looking forward to meeting Sean in Heaven with all my Maine cousins. love and Prayers to his family. e.
Lisa Wright
Dec 01, 2018
I don’t know you or your beloved Sean. I read his obituary with a smile on my face and tears in my eyes. What a tribute to somebody that sounds like such an awesome human being. I am so tremendously sorry for your enormous loss. I just know he is having amazing adventures and that his spirit is making heaven that much more incredible. Bless you all.
Loretta & Phillip Harp
Dec 01, 2018
I can only imagine what an amazing man he was, with a father like Sandy. Shell is his only sibling I know but she is a Great Lady and through herwe can only imagine what a true Gem he was.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Brenda Smith
Dec 01, 2018
So sorry for your loss ❤️
F. Louis
Dec 01, 2018
I want to express my condolences to your family and friends over the loss of your love one. In times like this a comforting word is welcomed. Especially when you lose someone that young. May you receive strength and comfort from the God who promise to “swallow up death forever” and give us a hope of a “resurrection”. - Isaiah 25:8; Acts 24:15.
Lori Thompson
Dec 01, 2018
I don't know you, or your son. I was deeply touched by your obituary and the intensity it brought. I have a 28 year old son, and I can't begin to imagine what pain your feeling. Keep the memories close, and may you gain strength from them. Thoughts and prayers to all
Bunny Dunn Gendreau
Dec 01, 2018
So young .. made U love him and laugh w/him .. a very special guy .. God Bless all his family .. esp Mom and g/Dad .. good hearted .. did steps here when my fellow did not hurry .. God Bless